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July 15, 2007

Sunday Morning Vent

I have to get this off my chest in hopes that you parents out there will have some kind of advice for me.

Son is, as you know, almost eight years old, but I swear he's turning into a teenager already. Lately he's been acting like a spoiled jerk who I don't like very much, which does not bode well for the rest of his youth.

I can, honestly, trace this behavior back to when he got back from spending a week with my parents. Being normal grandparents, they spoiled my younglings rotten. Daughter missed Husband and I, and wanted to come home, but Son would have been as happy as a pig in mud to stay up there forever.

Because Grandma and Grandpa drop everything and cater to Son's every whim, that's why. Would you want to leave something like that?

Long story short, now it's as if Son expects ME to drop everything and cater to him. Just the other day he had asked if we could go rent video games at Blockbuster, and I gave him the answer I always got: "We'll see." But I thought, well, he's got allowance saved up, maybe we can go tomorrow.

Later that day Son burst into tears when I told him he could play video games. His reason? He doesn't like any of the video games we have! It was then that I realized he expected me to drop what I was doing and run him in to town to rent games.

Well, I told his seven-year-old self that I'm not here to entertain him and cater to him, that I had just spent over $100 buying him books and taking him to the library!

After being yelled at by him all day yesterday, I finally told him that he's not at Grandma's anymore, that his arse better straighten up, or the next time he pulls that behavior, he's going to start losing his stuff. All those books he had to have, all those toys he had to have, no more library, no fun stuff for the rest of the summer.

I'm sick of it! And I'm considering homeschooling??

It is entirely too early for this kind of behavior.

Advice is most certainly welcome!!

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Posted by Groovyvic at 07:26 AM | Comments (2)

Just be firm and take away the things you threaten to take away. I have found that if you do that they learn quickly, but if you give in they push it as hard as they can - even at that age. On the other hand DON'T threaten to take away something you know you will not take away - like Christmas presents or some big event that you know you want him to attend. Make it small, but important things to him and follow through.

That will get his attention.

Posted by: NSC at July 15, 2007 01:41 PM

Take heart, stay strong and as my mom always said, "This too shall pass." She also said that she loved us to death, but could have strangled us on a daily basis from the age of 8 to 13. It is the "I'm not a little kid anymore" stage where they will push all your buttons because they are trying to be "a big kid". I have to say that she was right and they were the toughest years with my girls. In fact, it wasn't until after my oldest turned 13 that we could even really communicate without me getting "attitude" from her. I know that sounds backward from what you usually hear about teenagers being the hardest to deal with, but it really is the in-between ages that are the toughest. Hang in there. You will be the "meanest mom" for some time, but in the end it's the best thing you can do for your kids...you love them enough to care about their welfare, safety, minds and bodies whether they like it or not!

Posted by: Anna at July 15, 2007 07:05 PM