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I'm hiding in my bedroom with my laptop; I'm in such a mood right now that if I leave my room I may have to kill my husband.
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Call me crazy, but I got a little miffed this afternoon. I got home from getting the groceries and once everything was put away, I fell into bed and slept for the better part of the afternoon. Husband knew I was tired and not feeling well; it was all I could do to stay awake in church this morning!
So I wake up to Daughter standing next to the bed with a poopy diaper. I take care of that, Son wakes up from his nap, and I go in search of Husband. It seems we all took naps today, and once he woke up he went down to work on the bookshelves. Only he was just sitting in a chair staring at the stuff when I got down to the basement.
Okay, fine. Take care of some laundry and then I start stripping the beds. I hate making the beds. So, while I'm doing that I'm stewing over Son's "you're not much of a mom" comment from the other night. I neglected to mention what Husband said not long after that..."there is much truth in jest."
Oh, really? So now he thinks I'm not much of a mom either? That's just feckin' wonderful.
Once the beds were made I started making supper...tacos to be exact. While I'm standing there browning the meat and paging through Vogue, I'm still stewing over my husband. Normally when one of us cooks, the other one sets the table, stuff like that. He just sat on his ass looking at his laptop.
"Fuck this" I thought. I got the kids' plates filled, slammed the taco meat in front of Husband, grabbed my laptop, and here I am.
I'm just so mad and so fed up. I'm not much of a mom? Yes, that is still pissing me off, more so because of that "truth in jest" jab. Bastard. I gave up what could have been a decent job to be home with the kids, I gave up my damn figure to have kids...I bust my ass cooking, cleaning...Husband calls me anal rententive because I have to have everything "just so."
Ugh.
I hate using this blog to vent over the MEME stuff, but for the past few days I've just been feeling like...oh, I don't know what I've been feeling like. Nothing. I've been feeling NOTHING for the past few days.
Please throw some damn Liberal in my way so I can take out this anger on them!
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Well, you know my feeling on your son's remark. I left it as a comment on that post. Your husband dropped the ball. If I were you, the only thing I would have done is changed Daughter's diaper and made dinner for the kids. The husband's laundry can sit and he can fix his own darn dinner. Son needs to learn respect and your husband needs to prop you up when son knocks you down. Even if your husband was thinking that he ought to know better than to say it. I'm on your side, Groovyvic.
posted by
junebee at February 19, 2006 09:32 PM
Yeah, I still get crap like that from my girls. They think that because I make them do chores, that I don't do anything myself.
posted by
Anna at February 19, 2006 09:55 PM
Oh yeah Groovy, I know what you're talkin' about. My hubby tends to forget I'm home all day in one enclosed house with the kids. When he gets home and I snap at all of them, he's like "duh". He doesn't get that it's at least some of his turn when he gets home. Duh.
I have had my oldest question my parental competence at least a couple of times. I just pretend it doesn't get to me and think back to the time when my mom popped me in the mouth for similar behaviour. :)
Venting is good Groovy. We don't mind. Perhaps I should vent more often via the blog.
posted by
thirdee at February 19, 2006 10:07 PM
I'm not a liberal but I can play one on TV, if you need a punching bag. LOL
Seriously, I feel badly for you. I cringe every time I hear about a fellow man doing something that crass and insensitive, but I have no room to preach -- we're idiots, and I'm sure I've done something similarly hurtful to my wife.
If it makes you feel any better, I thought Rhett was a fool to leave you and I hope you get Tara back.
posted by
Brian B at February 20, 2006 12:10 PM
Vic, I'm sorry that I missed the original post about your son's comment (and your husband's reaction). Here's my two cents, a little too late.
Our standard response to smart-ass comments is "We don't speak to our mommies/daddies that way." Meaning that Kyle and I don't treat our parents that way, and we expect that our girls won't treat us that way either. Said mildly, and without allowing the conversation to devolve into a debate, it has been effective thus far.
Husband should certainly have backed you up. Or stayed out of it entirely.
While I don't think his comment, taken alone, was malicious, it seems like it was just piled on top of what you were already feeling - that he doesn't respect what you do (or how well you do it), and that his attitude is rubbing off on the kids. Let me know if I'm off base, but that's what I'm seeing here.
What you've described about feeling like "nothing" is why I'm hesitant to stay at home myself. Not because Kyle would treat me differently, but because I would see myself differently.
posted by
Julie at February 22, 2006 11:19 AM
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Well, you know my feeling on your son's remark. I left it as a comment on that post. Your husband dropped the ball. If I were you, the only thing I would have done is changed Daughter's diaper and made dinner for the kids. The husband's laundry can sit and he can fix his own darn dinner. Son needs to learn respect and your husband needs to prop you up when son knocks you down. Even if your husband was thinking that he ought to know better than to say it. I'm on your side, Groovyvic.
Yeah, I still get crap like that from my girls. They think that because I make them do chores, that I don't do anything myself.
Oh yeah Groovy, I know what you're talkin' about. My hubby tends to forget I'm home all day in one enclosed house with the kids. When he gets home and I snap at all of them, he's like "duh". He doesn't get that it's at least some of his turn when he gets home. Duh.
I have had my oldest question my parental competence at least a couple of times. I just pretend it doesn't get to me and think back to the time when my mom popped me in the mouth for similar behaviour. :)
Venting is good Groovy. We don't mind. Perhaps I should vent more often via the blog.
I'm not a liberal but I can play one on TV, if you need a punching bag. LOL
Seriously, I feel badly for you. I cringe every time I hear about a fellow man doing something that crass and insensitive, but I have no room to preach -- we're idiots, and I'm sure I've done something similarly hurtful to my wife.
If it makes you feel any better, I thought Rhett was a fool to leave you and I hope you get Tara back.
Vic, I'm sorry that I missed the original post about your son's comment (and your husband's reaction). Here's my two cents, a little too late.
Our standard response to smart-ass comments is "We don't speak to our mommies/daddies that way." Meaning that Kyle and I don't treat our parents that way, and we expect that our girls won't treat us that way either. Said mildly, and without allowing the conversation to devolve into a debate, it has been effective thus far.
Husband should certainly have backed you up. Or stayed out of it entirely.
While I don't think his comment, taken alone, was malicious, it seems like it was just piled on top of what you were already feeling - that he doesn't respect what you do (or how well you do it), and that his attitude is rubbing off on the kids. Let me know if I'm off base, but that's what I'm seeing here.
What you've described about feeling like "nothing" is why I'm hesitant to stay at home myself. Not because Kyle would treat me differently, but because I would see myself differently.
