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February 19, 2006

I'm hiding

I'm hiding in my bedroom with my laptop; I'm in such a mood right now that if I leave my room I may have to kill my husband.

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Posted by Groovyvic at 07:01 PM | Comments (5) | TrackBack (1)

Well, you know my feeling on your son's remark. I left it as a comment on that post. Your husband dropped the ball. If I were you, the only thing I would have done is changed Daughter's diaper and made dinner for the kids. The husband's laundry can sit and he can fix his own darn dinner. Son needs to learn respect and your husband needs to prop you up when son knocks you down. Even if your husband was thinking that he ought to know better than to say it. I'm on your side, Groovyvic.

Posted by: junebee at February 19, 2006 09:32 PM

Yeah, I still get crap like that from my girls. They think that because I make them do chores, that I don't do anything myself.

Posted by: Anna at February 19, 2006 09:55 PM

Oh yeah Groovy, I know what you're talkin' about. My hubby tends to forget I'm home all day in one enclosed house with the kids. When he gets home and I snap at all of them, he's like "duh". He doesn't get that it's at least some of his turn when he gets home. Duh.

I have had my oldest question my parental competence at least a couple of times. I just pretend it doesn't get to me and think back to the time when my mom popped me in the mouth for similar behaviour. :)

Venting is good Groovy. We don't mind. Perhaps I should vent more often via the blog.

Posted by: thirdee at February 19, 2006 10:07 PM

I'm not a liberal but I can play one on TV, if you need a punching bag. LOL

Seriously, I feel badly for you. I cringe every time I hear about a fellow man doing something that crass and insensitive, but I have no room to preach -- we're idiots, and I'm sure I've done something similarly hurtful to my wife.

If it makes you feel any better, I thought Rhett was a fool to leave you and I hope you get Tara back.

Posted by: Brian B at February 20, 2006 12:10 PM

Vic, I'm sorry that I missed the original post about your son's comment (and your husband's reaction). Here's my two cents, a little too late.

Our standard response to smart-ass comments is "We don't speak to our mommies/daddies that way." Meaning that Kyle and I don't treat our parents that way, and we expect that our girls won't treat us that way either. Said mildly, and without allowing the conversation to devolve into a debate, it has been effective thus far.

Husband should certainly have backed you up. Or stayed out of it entirely.

While I don't think his comment, taken alone, was malicious, it seems like it was just piled on top of what you were already feeling - that he doesn't respect what you do (or how well you do it), and that his attitude is rubbing off on the kids. Let me know if I'm off base, but that's what I'm seeing here.

What you've described about feeling like "nothing" is why I'm hesitant to stay at home myself. Not because Kyle would treat me differently, but because I would see myself differently.

Posted by: Julie at February 22, 2006 11:19 AM